After 10 years of marriage...

I’m still crazy for this woman.

Being with her is my little piece of heaven on earth.

Here’s my proof: So far, I’ve had 572 romantic dates with
my wife. (She’s my ex-girlfriend, right?) That’s once per week
for almost 11 beautiful years.

And I’ve loved every single one of them.

Our date night is sacred.

Unless it’s an invitation from the President of the Republic, I say no
to all invitations and meetings. Our marriage is what it is today because
of those precious 572 dates.

Call me corny. Call me deluded. Call me in denial.

But I really love being with her.

By the way, did you know my wife has magical powers?

When I’m with her, she drains my stress away. When I’m going
through a rough time, all I have to do is share my problems to her and,
instantly, I feel so much better. With her, I’m at home. And I rest.
I believe couples need to connect with each other in a deep way or
they will drift apart and look for attachments elsewhere.

Aside from our weekly dates, I grab special times I call “spontaneous
moments of connection.”

One afternoon, I came home ready to dive into my work. The usual
stuff I do: articles to write, talks to prepare, meetings to plan.
But when I came home, I saw this lovely woman sitting on the
couch all by herself. I thought to myself, “Work can wait,” and I
grabbed this opportunity to sit beside the greatest girl in the galaxy.
It wasn’t planned. But we were able to talk and connect our hearts.

Even just for a few minutes.

Life offers us these fantastic times of bonding. I’ve learned not to
miss them: being stuck in traffic with her, or waiting for the dentist,
or lining up in the grocery. These times don’t have to be boring if you
hold hands and talk.

One day, a young husband came up to me and said, “Bo, I wish my
marriage will be as great as yours 10 years from now.”

I only had one word for him: “Don’t wish. Decide.”

In that one line, I gave my secret to success.

That’s what separates great marriages and not-so-great marriages.
That’s what separates successful people from unsuccessful people.
Unsuccessful people wish, want, hope, desire for their dreams.
That’s not enough.

Successful people decide to make their dreams happen. Period.
That means they’ll do whatever it takes.

Nothing will stop them.

Failure is not an option.

Let me ask you: Will you do whatever it takes?

For me, as a husband, it means practicing a lot of things: being
committed to “mental” monogamy, overlooking her faults, going out
of my way to express my love, prioritizing our dates and leading my
family to God.

Note: Just in case you’re in the delusion that I’m a perfect husband,
let me set the record straight. I’m far from it. Just ask my wife! But the
important thing is that I’ve decided to become a great husband.

Make a decision to be the most loving person you can be — every
day.

May your dreams come true.

--Bo Sanchez